Saturday, August 8, 2009


Joy and Mom and I have taken some fun trips together through the years. Some to go on doctor visits. some to go visiting friends, some just for shopping. But, whatever the reason, we could always have fun times together. We would laugh, and be silly, and eat, and look for shoes, and explore new shops, and laugh, and laugh, and laugh. Now Joy and Mom never have enjoyed 'junking' or antique shops...they always liked that pretty, prissy stuff. And, they would wait patiently for me to 'run in' and see if there was some treasure sitting there with my name on it. I'm certain there were many things that were meant for me that I never got to see!
Oh well...didn't need any of it!

Mom liked to go into shops and just leisurely go up and down the aisles. She used to say, "I just want to go by myself, with my own buggy, and no one rushing me." And, Joy and I would let her do that. And, she loved to Christmas shop. Just a few weeks ago, I told her that Joy and I were getting ready to take her on a little trip. I asked her where she wanted to go. I said we would not go too far. In recent years she has not wanted to go very far from home. She has always loved Atlanta. She loved to go with me to Market, and she had several favorite shops she liked to visit. But, no, she didn't want to go to Atlanta. "Too busy", she said. She would like to go to Birmingham. Oh, she had some fav shops there, too. She loved White Flowers Gallery, and At Home and Harmony Landing in Homewood. She loved Smith and Hawken, and Pottery Barn, and Restoration Hardware, and Coldwater Creek and Talbots, and The Cheesecake Factory and PFChangs at the Summit. The last time we went we ate at a Panera Bread at the Summit for breakfast, and she enjoyed the beautiful view from our table. She enjoyed visiting the Galleria in Hoover. She used to love The Mole Hole that was there, and Bombay Company, and of course, Cindy's Cinnamon Rolls. And, Hobby Lobby. And, a special shoe store in Hoover Unique Feet, that was one of the few places that could fit her feet. She would go and sit and try on shoes for and hour or two. And, several little gift shops in that area. And World Market.
And, others I'll think of later.

As we travelled on our last trip we made together, we talked of many things. We were travelling to Birmingham to see her doctor for a follow up visit. We were planning things for Lori's wedding, and things for my house, and she was planning ways she wanted to redo her living room. We discussed friends and people we had known. We talked of our church, and thoroughly dissected each grandchild's life and things they needed to do to make it better. We always had the best ideas for if they wanted or needed our input!

I turned to Mom at one point, and asked her if she could take a trip to anywhere in the world...where would it be. Now Mom and Pop did much travelling together in years past. They have been to Japan, Africa, Greece, the Holy Lands, Hawaii, Alaska, Guatemala, Peru, Belize, Honduras, Russia, and all across the US. She said, "I have always wanted to tour through North Carolina. (That's her home state.)
I would love to visit all those places that I heard people talking about when I was growing up. I would like to go to some of the small towns, and to the coast, and back to Wilmington." (Her parents lived there for a while.) Joy chose New England and I chose Hawaii.

We decided then and there, on I65, between Troy and Montgomery, that we would take that trip. We would wait for it to get a little cooler...and closer to the time the leaves would begin changing color. She said that it was really the only place she really would like to go. She decided that we would stop first and spend a few days with her sisters and brother before moving along on our journey.

And, that was our plans. And, that was our desire. Joy and I were looking forward to making that trip, too. We spent many summers in NC and had such fond memories of sweet times spent with relatives there. We were looking forward to discovering places with Mom. We knew there would be lots of 'Fancy Nancy' shops to peruse. And I knew there would be antique shops for me to sift through. They could just find them a bench and sit a spell! And we knew that when things would get silly and she would try to act 'tough'...she would shake her finger at us and tell us to "behave!" And, she knew good and well we would not stop until it was all played out!

Instead, Mom went on a different journey. A much better journey. To the ultimate vacation destination! Heaven...where cool breezes blow, and the sky is bluer than blue and the clouds are as white as cotton, and the streets are shiny gold. And the sun...why! there is no need for sun there...God, Himself, is the Light. She is not having to sit down and rest a while as she explores the beauty there. And, she is not having to stay within close range of a restroom at all times. Her fingers are not twisted from arthritis, so she can do all she wants to do. Her hips are not aching anymore, so she is able to walk and talk with family and friends and with God.

Oh, I'm sure she is enjoying this trip far better than the one we would have taken her on. But, I'm still a little sad that we did not get to go on our little 'girl's trip'. I know we would have had as much fun as we always did. Now, instead of exploring the places she missed in NC...she is seeing the glory of Heaven! And, she can just be our tour guide when we arrive!


Lynne said...

That's a beautiful post, Tonja.

I remember reading your posts about trips the 3 of you have taken. You always had so much fun together.

I'm sure she's enjoying her new home now, and she is waiting for you to join her some day in the future.

Just Breathe said...

Beautiful post. How wonderful to have so many beautiful memories about your mom, photos and stories to tell. You were blessed.

nancygrayce said...

O.K. she who does not cry, just cried again! That's the second time today! Oh, Tonja, how sweet. We took mama to NC a few years ago (my sisters and I) and I'm so glad we did it then because it wasn't long that she couldn't make a trip like she can't travel at all. You did so many things with your mama!!! Plus, heaven is so much better than NC!! :)

Melissa said...

What a beautiful post with such sweet memories! The stories of your travels with your mom are so much like my Mama and me. I think we're pretty close to being classified as shopaholics, and we LOVE to go places together. Since my stepfather passed away and my oldest child was born seven years ago, we've taken Mama on most every single vacation we've taken...everywhere from New Jersey to Disney World. I hope we are as blessed as you and your mom to have so much fun together for many, many years to come. Sending prayers your way....I know you miss her so much.

Bonnie said...

I wholeheartedly agree . . . a beautiful post! You have the most amazing photos to treasure . . . and memories!

Sherrie said...

Precious memories :)

Gail said...

Tonja, I don't know you in person.But, your blog certainly makes one feel they know you. You are so open hearted and kind sharing your feelings. I loved the photos your are sharing with us. Just look at those wonderful smiles on your faces! Your memories will only grow stroger and sweeter as the time goes by. I lost my Dad in 1996 He died, like your Mom, with no notice at all. No good-byes, no last anythings. He was at peace living with God in my fast second. I have always given thanks to God to be allow to have that knowledge. No pain, no suffering. It does make it easier down the road knowing all this. I was just lost and confused when he left so fast. Strokes and heart attacks are deadly and strike so fast. Like you, I give thanks daily to God for allowing me to have...a smiling Dad. God Bless.

Tracey-RealEstateGirl said...

Tonja, as always, such a touching, beautiful, heartfelt post. A special tribute to your mother--and I loved the photos too!

You really should consider writing a have such a way with words!

cr said...

Take the trip as a tribute to your mom's memory.

Tonja said...

Linnie G Carpenter Tonja Townsend Owens: tonja, at a time in my life such as last night ------ as i read your blog----- even tho that was your throughts ----i relived life with ella-------- as far back as when they lived on 3rd
ave. -when rick had that surgery on his throat - didn't know the townsends from any one else. they walked down to our back door and offered theirhelp in any way and your dad said " in any way" !!!! they have been a dear christain friend to u s since. I still turn to clyde for that i am not sure about !!!!!! I AM GRATEFUL TO GOD FOR THE TOWNSENDS!!

LivingTheLife said...

I agree with everyone else...such a sweet post about your mom. I too, remember the previous trips you have posted about with Joy & your mom...I do seem to remember you girls always having the best of times...always great pictures, abundant smiling and oh so many great memories...AND I do remember you talking about your mom and the shoe store she loved. Tonja, what great daughters you and Joy were to your mom...I know she smiles upon each of you every day...and thanking the Lord first hand for giving her such a loving family.

Maybe in a few months or a few years, you and Joy can still take that trip...I think your mom would love that!


Musicaljean said...

Again you almost have me speechless. This was so beautiful, so touching, so....holy.

I love you mother, even if I never knew her here on this earth.

Dianne said...

This is a very sweet post, Tonja, and the pictures are great as well. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. We all miss your mom too!